Alone, Angry, Ashamed. Emotions swirl through the mind of a woman who discovers her husband has been unfaithful — a day that will be indelibly etched in her mind forever. Kate Conwell believes no one should have to face the pain of betrayal alone. That’s why she founded Journey Beyond Betrayal ministry, where she provides one-on-one coaching and resources “to help women heal emotionally, rebuild spiritually, and walk forward with strength and clarity,” she wrote at journeybeyondbetrayal.com.

“This journey is hard. But healing is possible. And I’d be honored to walk with you through every step. Betrayal may have shaken your world, but it doesn’t have to define your future. The Journey Beyond Betrayal Healing Process is a proven, faith-centered roadmap designed to guide you from heartbreak to wholeness.”

Certified as a IBCC Mental Health Coach and a Kingdom Life Coach, Kate offers personal and professional tools to help women process the pain and step into the future. They find her confidential support and faith-based guidance for betrayal trauma recovery through social media or the website, where they can access Journey Beyond Betrayal’s newsletter and free downloadables — like “First Steps to Stabilizing After Betrayal,” “Daily Activities to Help with Healing,” and book recommendations.

If women want more, they’ll schedule a discovery call to see whether they are a good fit for Kate’s 1:1 coaching program. Kate offers three- or six-month support packages that include homework and video resources. She’ll meet with a woman personally twice a month to coach her through the healing program — working on boundaries, restoring trust, overcoming triggers, controlling spiraling thoughts and rebuilding confidence. Kate’s also available for questions or support between sessions via a video messaging app. Her goal is to provide value to each woman who calls, whether she decides to pursue coaching or just needs a referral to a resource to gain a feeling of hope. Either way, Kate meets with each woman where she is – whether she’s new to the process or stuck along the way. Each woman’s struggle is unique. The pain is similar, but the healing work can be different. “All your past hurts will impact how you walk through this,” she explained. “Together, we’ll work through the triggers, the grief, the mental overload, and the decisions you’re unsure how to make. We’ll rebuild your self-worth, restore your sense of peace, and watch God redeem your story!” she describes on the website.

Foundational Principles

• Authority: Take control of your journey. Make clear choices about how to move forward.

• Breakthrough: Get unstuck. Gain knowledge and tools that create post-traumatic growth.

• Confidence: Stop believing the lies. Know that you are worthy of love and infidelity doesn’t define you.

• Connection: End the isolation. Be surrounded by women who understand and help you heal.

“God can take this manure and grow something beautiful from it,” she added. “When something difficult and traumatic happens to you, it’s an opportunity to uproot the lies that you started to carry with you. You can uncover what’s been holding you back from being all God created you to be.”

Kate knows this journey from personal experience. Thirteen years ago, she found herself in the same place as the women she coaches, a day she counts as the worst day of her life. But her husband was repentant. They were fortunate to find a couple who worked with them to help them process and reconcile. Her Holy Spirit-inspired mentor guided her through books, podcasts, gave her action items and facilitated healing. Despite the God-sent help from her mentor, Kate longed for community – other women with whom she could process and find hope.  But she struggled to identify others who had successfully navigated infidelity and retained their marriage. She tucked the desire for community in the back of her heart as she and her husband continued to build into their family and raise their young sons. Then the pandemic changed their routines, shifting Kate into supervising her sons’ remote schooling, prompting a move from the Pacific Northwest to Texas, and disrupting her personal training business. (Kate was a NCAA pole vault champion at the University of Washington who trained for the 2004 and 2008 USA Olympic teams.) She felt a holy discontent, a feeling she was meant to live out the purpose for which God made her with something more. She remembered how she had so longed for fellowship during her rough season of adultery discovery and realized she’d like to be able to offer that support to others.

“It was so helpful being able to talk to someone who had been through it and gotten to the other side,” she said. “Having someone else who understood” inspired Kate to develop the Journey Beyond Betrayal online community. She launched on Oct. 14, 2022, ten years to the day after her husband’s revelation, changing the worst day of her life to one of renewal and hope — creating beauty from ashes.

“It gives me so much joy to support other women,” she said. “If you would have told me when I was in the midst of the pain that God would use the worst thing that has ever happened to me to help women, I would not have believed it.”

While Kate had much success with her clients, pouring her heart and soul into the ministry, she realized running a one-woman program was becoming more than she could handle. It was an answer to prayer when Jeremy Waldridge, Executive Director of Pure Life Alliance, asked her to consider stepping into the role of Programs Manager to help develop both men’s and women’s resources and groups.

“This was exactly the answer I was praying for,” she noted. Kate transitioned her women’s support groups to those offered by Pure Life Alliance but still continues to coach clients individually. Her role overseeing the ministry’s 20+ men’s and four women’s groups will allow both to grow and serve more people, a desperate need, as Kate doesn’t anticipate societal problems resulting from sexual brokenness being resolved any time soon. Another benefit is that now both the women she coaches and their husbands can be supported through the same organization, allowing for enhanced continuity and accountability. Kate’s husband is an example of one who has benefitted from meeting weekly with a group of men.

“My husband has found these are men who are being honest, sharing, going deep and holding each other accountable,” she said. “He loves the relational part of it and enjoys learning and developing himself as a person. He understands the ‘why’ behind his addictive behavior.”

Pure Life Alliance is a nonprofit ministry that equips churches and counselors to support individuals struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors. They seek to assist men and women in their pursuit of healthy sexuality. “We want to restore marriages and deepen relationships with Christ. Churches partner with us by providing meeting space for groups and trainings, and through financial support,” according to its website, purelifealliance.com.  “Pure Life Alliance facilitates the networking of churches, support groups, counselors and other services specializing in the area of purity. Together this network works more effectively to bring healing and restoration to families and individuals impacted by sexual brokenness.”

Kate’s helping Pure Life Alliance launch three new books for groups and mentors, the first of which, Anchored, released in fall 2025.

“The work is so needed and will continue,” she said. “There’s been a lot of misunderstanding around sexual addiction. Acting out is a coping mechanism to relieve stress. Some people chose shopping. There should be conviction and repentance, but shame is not something God wants any of us to carry. This is what you’ve done or had done to you, but it’s not who you are. How can we let that go? People need to understand why they are doing something and learn how to change their hearts to be able to change their behavior.” 

Kate hopes her work will allow others to create better outcomes and be able to leave a changed legacy for their families. As she and her husband have worked to restore their now 18-year marriage, their healing has impacted how they parent their middle-school-age boys. “Now they get a really healthy version of my husband,” she said. “When you deal with things it allows your family to grow and impact generations.”

If you’re struggling with unwanted sexual behavior or its impact, you don’t have to journey alone. Connect with Kate through Journey Beyond Betrayal or Pure Life Alliance. Don’t suffer in silence. Support is just a click away.