Athena transparently shares the struggles she and husband, Ross, encountered as they began blending two lives into one. Despite his congregation watching Ross faithfully care for his first wife until her dying day, her death and his subsequent re-marriage rocked the church he pastored. After their marriage, career-woman Athena continued her professional activities, which was a shock to Ross’ routine. There were stepchildren and their families who needed support.
“Learning to navigate new seasons can be an example for the people who are watching you,” she added. “When people know you are going through suffering, and you model it in a way that honors God.”
But the sweetness of a healthy marriage took Athena by surprise, “After unhealthy, toxic relationships, to have a husband who loves me well – I didn’t know it could be like this,” she said.
The short book touches on issues with which small groups and couples can relate and includes discussion questions at the end of each chapter. Examples include: “What is your story?” “If they made a movie of your life, what would the title be?” “What in your life has God turned to good that wasn’t?” “Can you name three unexpected events in your life that God put there to mature you?”
She believes the book can be useful to anyone working through change – losing a career or a loved one, retirement, the empty nest, major loss, trials or adversity.
“Learning how to weather that in a way that brings spouses closer together and to not sacrifice their relationship. That’s our mission in marriage. If people understood what God was calling them to do together there would be less fall out, less divorce.
“If we don’t process our pain, we become vulnerable to deception,” she cautioned. “You see a lot of deception in the Christian church. So many people are broken who have never let God into those places to process.”
Athena touches on this area in her memoir where she encourages readers to become wise warriors and understand spiritual warfare. “You can’t resist what you don’t recognize,” she said. “We have to understand the strategies the enemy uses to take us out. If our battle is not with flesh and blood, our spouse is not the enemy. Too many people don’t recognize how the enemy operates, and they aren’t on guard.”
Author Rhonda Stoppe wrote an endorsement for Together for a Purpose, “The kingdom of God is made up of millions of stories that impact others” is my favorite takeaway from this beautiful book. This real-life romance account will give you hope, bring you joy, and show you how, even when life doesn’t make sense, God is constantly working his good in the lives of couples who are called to His purpose.”