The Essential Humility of Marriage: Honoring the Third Identity in Couple Therapy

The Essential Humility of Marriage: Honoring the Third Identity in Couple Therapy

Sharon & Terry Hargrave

The author offers a fresh new perspective an what makes marriages work that will jumpstart the efforts of every couples therapist. At its care is his suggestion that what is needed is some new math: where once we believed that two became one, and then, more recently, that two remained two, Hargrave, proposes that in strong marriages, two become three: “you”, “me” and “we”.

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